The Fattest Part of Your Body


I am not a violent person. I seek peace. I avoid conflict. I absorb hurt sometimes in order not to hurt someone else. But there are people I would like to cause considerable anguish. Who? Glad you asked. Anyone who says one of the following:

“Well I’ve been trying to put on weight for years and nothing works. Pass me that Snickers bar why don’t ya?”

“I’m just so fat … I can’t shake that last two pounds. Oh well, I’m off to the gym!”

“That outfit really makes you look slim.”

“Have you lost weight? You’re looking good!”

That last one might be ok, if it were true. As I read recently somewhere out there in social media, when someone you haven’t seen in a while asks if you’ve lost weight that just means you leave a fat impression.

For someone like me who has struggled with weight issues for as long as I can remember, being large is a part of my identity. The jokes come easy (and are often subterfuge for how I really feel). The clothing choices are simple, there are simply not many choices. My sincere compassion is sensitized toward all people who have weight issues. I know that some people think this is simply a math issue. Take in less calories than you burn and you will lose weight. That’s a theory you can’t argue with, except that it doesn’t take so many factors into consideration.

The fattest place on your body is between your ears. Yes, there are some people who are just fatheads, but that’s not what I’m talking about. This is all about re-thinking one of the most basic actions of the human body. We learn to feed immediately upon entrance into this world. We are taught all kinds of things about eating (the starving children in China never got anything off of my ‘happy plate‘). How much we eat is given such importance as a young person that it relates to our approval or disapproval from the parental units. Not that I’m blaming my parents for my obesity. I’ve been a responsible grown up now for more years than I want to think about. If there is any corrective thinking I need to do, it is my responsibility to do that.

No diet will remove all the fat from your body because the brain is entirely fat. Without a brain you might look good, but all you could do is run for public office. ~Covert Bailey

But it’s not like a switch. The person who quits cigarettes cold turkey (turkey!) never has to pick up a ciggy again. He’s done. The person who calls a halt to drug abuse or an alcohol addiction can make it the rest of their lives without either of those substances. Many do. You can’t quit food, though. Alcoholics learn that they must change people, places, and things in order to make a clean break. Those addicted to eating cannot avoid food forever.  The rate of return to old ways is pretty high. I’ve said my goodbyes to Debbie and Sara many many times. Each time I meant it … but Little Debbie has an allure only matched by Sara Lee. These are the other women in my life. The Jolly Green Giant would be a better relationship, but I just do not have feelings for him.

So if (as I have postulated in two previous posts) diets don’t work and if fat people don’t go to the gym, what’s a overweight person who wants to be healthier to do?

Think. No life change comes without earnest thought. A healthier lifestyle will not be the result of going mindlessly through the day and suddenly realizing you’ve eaten enough for four football players. I have a friend who was in Weight Watchers. She didn’t like the program. It seems that at the end of the day she had eaten too many ‘points’. Somehow it escaped her that she was supposed to plan ahead, and before she eats to think about how many points each food was valued. Thinking is not easy, nor does it come natural when most overweight people are used to turning off their brains when it’s time to eat. It is an almost entirely emotional event. The drug of choice is edible, pleasing, and if it is really good then worthy of a second helping. All carelessly and without a thought of the reality that this wonderful fare is going to become a part of our not-so-small derriere.

It is my position that if we were to think before we eat we might be able to make better choices. More on that later.

Thanks for reading,



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