From My Files: Maturity

maturity2I would like to properly attribute the following thoughts, but after doing an internet search I can only narrow down potential authors. Some of the authors I found were Roy Weece, Richard Rogers, Anne Nunemaker and Anne Hunemaker (those last two, I assume, are the same person with a textual variant). Aside from not being able to find the original author, there are some differences in the versions available. Since these arrived to me through a church bulletin years ago, and they are floating around the internet in various places, I am mindful that these are important thoughts about maturity. Of course you may or may not agree with these, I think that overall they just tell us to be true to ourselves rather than swayed and shifted by the actions and attitudes of others. So I share it with those thoughts in mind!


If you can see a work which you have begun, taken from you and given to another without feeling bitterness—that`s maturity.

If you can listen to someone criticize you, even unkindly, and receive instruction from it without hard feelings—that`s maturity.

If you can see others chosen for a job which you yourself are better qualified to do without feeling hurt—that`s maturity.

If you can see a person do an act which is against your Christian standards and react without self-righteousness—that`s maturity.

If you can hear another person argue a point of view which is contrary to your own and accept his right to his own opinion without feeling of smugness—that`s maturity.

If you can suffer nagging pain or ache, still singing and praising God, hiding your feelings for the sake of others—that`s maturity. (One variant reads, “If you can suffer nagging pain and hide your feelings for the sake of others – that is maturity.”)

If you can give yourself to help someone else who needs you, without having the idea that you are “a pretty good fellow”—that`s maturity.

If you can see someone you know well deliberately snub you and you can make allowances for their actions – that’s maturity.

If you can crawl out of bed at an early hour to pray when you would rather sleep, because you realize that here lies your power with God—that`s maturity.

If you can look upon every man as an object of God’s yearning, so that you become burdened for his soul—that`s maturity.

If you can listen with your heart,  your eyes and your ears, evaluate the other person’s conversation with love – and understanding, and go away without opening your mouth – that’s maturity.

If you can be maligned, falsely accused, ridiculed publicly and branded with the transgressors without growing bitter – you have at last reached true maturity.

In addition to the above, some of the framents of this article contain the following scribal addition:

… is the ability to control anger and settle differences without violence or destruction.
… is the patience, the willingness to pass up immediate pleasure in favor of the long term gain.

… is unselfishness—responding to the needs of others, often at the expense of one’s own desires or wishes.

… is the capacity to fare unpleasantness and frustration, discomfort and defeat, without complaint and collapse.

… is humility. It is being big enough to say, “I was wrong”, and when right, the mature person need not say, “I told you so”.

… is the ability to make a decision and stand by it. The immature spend their lives exploring endless possibilities then do nothing.

… means dependability, keeping one’s word, coming through in a crisis.

… is the art of living in peace with that which we cannot change.


So, to the original author…long lost in the dusty archives of a hundred articles published and forgotten, thanks. These are some worthwhile thoughts to consider.

Thanks for reading